I was caught in this affirmation, on both sides. Often, which is a chant that we grow when we give, not good to build bigger barns, if you have a lot, better to build a bigger dinner table.
This is what happened. A surprise, and yet it isn’t. Which is to inquire if someone’s response to your generosity is what matters.
The following, yesterday. Was checking out at the grocery store, noticed an elderly lady behind me, pushing a very small cart that had two loaves of French Bread and two candy bars. Chris, the assistant manager, was the cashier. I leaned over to him, “Hey, Chris. I’ll cover her costs,” pointing to the lady.
I turned, “Ma’am, I have good news for you…your groceries are paid for. Have a lovely day.”
She looked somewhat puzzled…not miffed but puzzled, and then smiled, her way of “getting it.”
She then turned and grabbed two hands full of candy bars and dumped them in her cart.
Chris and I were startled. He looked at me, a facial inquiry, “How do you deal with that?”
Let me stop there. For you. How would you deal with it, her response to an act of generosity?
She reached for a second time for two more handfuls of candy bars. I held up my hand and said, “I think you have enough, Ma’am.”
She looked at me, “For my grandchildren.”
I nodded that I understood, but said, “Think you have enough.”
Okay. She ended up being a taker. But, I maintain. That doesn’t negate the act of kindness. And that is that.
So, I show the affirmation again…and ask us as much and often as we can, be givers. Whether or not you load up on candy bars.