Your Decision: Giver Or Taker?

I was caught in this affirmation, on both sides. Often, which is a chant that we grow when we give, not good to build bigger barns, if you have a lot, better to build a bigger dinner table.

This is what happened. A surprise, and yet it isn’t. Which is to inquire if someone’s response to your generosity is what matters.

The following, yesterday. Was checking out at the grocery store, noticed an elderly lady behind me, pushing a very small cart that had two loaves of French Bread and two candy bars. Chris, the assistant manager, was the cashier. I leaned over to him, “Hey, Chris. I’ll cover her costs,” pointing to the lady.

He nodded.

I turned, “Ma’am, I have good news for you…your groceries are paid for. Have a lovely day.”

She looked somewhat puzzled…not miffed but puzzled, and then smiled, her way of “getting it.”

She then turned and grabbed two hands full of candy bars and dumped them in her cart.

Chris and I were startled. He looked at me, a facial inquiry, “How do you deal with that?”

Let me stop there. For you. How would you deal with it, her response to an act of generosity?


She reached for a second time for two more handfuls of candy bars. I held up my hand and said, “I think you have enough, Ma’am.”

She looked at me, “For my grandchildren.”

I nodded that I understood, but said, “Think you have enough.”

And left.

Okay. She ended up being a taker. But, I maintain. That doesn’t negate the act of kindness. And that is that.

So, I show the affirmation again…and ask us as much and often as we can, be givers. Whether or not you load up on candy bars.

About Mark H Miller

Diane and I live in Leander, Texas. This past June 17, 2015 I celebrated the 49th anniversary of my ordination. We returned to Texas after three years in Washington, during which I served as interim minister in Bellevue/Eastgate and Mercer Island. Am planning to begin a 5th novel that will have my protagonist, Tricia Gleason, serve a year in licensed ministry in Snoqualmie, Washington. The novel, "The Lemon Drop Didn't Melt," will find Tricia wrestling with ministry challenges. None of which more daunting than someone wanting her breathing to stop. All the published novels are available on Amazon and Amazon Kindle under Mark Henry Miller. A primary goal in our return to Texas is to make sure grandchildren get lots of attention--here and in Chicago and Washington, D.C. Traveling is definitely an activity that will not slow down. With that, of course, fishing will happen. To that the t-shirt is apt, "I fish; therefore I am." In addition to novels, the book of Blogs, "Voice Of My Heart," is also available on Amazon.
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