Balanced Relationships Don’t Happen

Talking about relationships, no matter the factoring…as parents, as spouses, as siblings, as friends…as any two. Will use two-some in my reflection.

Have kept with the definition of covenant as “two people each giving their fullest for the good of the relationship.”

Circumstances impact the imbalance. I say imbalance, because in my limited understanding no relationship is balanced, except in that rarer than rare moment when the twosome shift from 49% to 51%.

Thought of that this morning per my recent blog. Obviously my toleration of the President is severely imbalanced to support him. I was displeased of no recognition of Trump as a worth-of-support guy. Given the trashing of McCain by Trump—you know the quotes, perhaps the most skewering was “A POW if not a War Hero.”

This morning, reading matters I had not remembered [maybe that was selective; I’m not a denial guy.] how often McCain ranted against Trump. The article gave ample times when Trump would respond more than attack.

So what? Well, I believe it’s important now that McCain will move into a future with God closer than ever before, it’s Theoretical but only when passing can be actual.
important to realize and recognize ALL relationships have changing patterns.

I think the key is, and I’m perhaps the least master of this than anyone you know, to know all relationships flux. The key is when there’s ire and damage that indicates the relationship is actually splintering to think deep and pray deeper to give effort of moving toward some kind of better balance.

More, and I do believe Jesus knew this better than any of us, it’s crucial we not let a 10/90 imbalance cast out the 10% person. What’s key to me is what happened when Jesus and the disciples were at the Last Supper moment in the Upper Room.

Recall the words that begin our Sacrament of Holy Communion, “ON THE NIGHT IN WHICH HE WAS BETRAYED…”

Oh, my, Jesus could’ve been very human, refuse to break the bread and said, “Why did you betray me? Why don’t you support me? Why am I at 90% and you at 10%? Will you ever not betray?”


He took the bread and broke it, identified it and served broken bread…to broken lives and gave hope to every relationship.

The key to all this, in sharing with those most important to you…and thinking of those least important to you, can you remain committed to getting the relationship back to semblance, something more like 50/50? And when each of you is at least 49/51, don’t let up on giving your fullest. For we each are broken, and we each need to receive the bread and the wine…no matter what.


About Mark H Miller

Diane and I live in Leander, Texas. This past June 17, 2015 I celebrated the 49th anniversary of my ordination. We returned to Texas after three years in Washington, during which I served as interim minister in Bellevue/Eastgate and Mercer Island. Am planning to begin a 5th novel that will have my protagonist, Tricia Gleason, serve a year in licensed ministry in Snoqualmie, Washington. The novel, "The Lemon Drop Didn't Melt," will find Tricia wrestling with ministry challenges. None of which more daunting than someone wanting her breathing to stop. All the published novels are available on Amazon and Amazon Kindle under Mark Henry Miller. A primary goal in our return to Texas is to make sure grandchildren get lots of attention--here and in Chicago and Washington, D.C. Traveling is definitely an activity that will not slow down. With that, of course, fishing will happen. To that the t-shirt is apt, "I fish; therefore I am." In addition to novels, the book of Blogs, "Voice Of My Heart," is also available on Amazon.
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