May we always be students. Never stop learning. Never stop seeing the options in life to living not pushing toward zero. I remember when fishing with our nephew Brian, he, who’s struggling with an inoperable brain tumor [Brian is Diane’s sister Cheryl’s son] after catching his first salmon, said, “I’m still living.” “Yes, Brian, important.”
And then, because a friend gave me this nugget, “Most important, though, is to never die before you are dead.” That works. That really works.
Back to being a student. I viewed a u-tube this morning on Traumatic Brain Injuries. A lesson that applies to Diane and me and all our family in helping Jason walk into his future, he having had on January 7 a major brain surgery removing the hematoma, larger than a golf ball, from his cerebellum.
In sharing this recovery experience with many of you in personal notes and the blog, I learned this morning I’m using the wrong word. I offered “recovery.”
A Brain Injury tape says from brain injuries we don’t recover. That is, we never return to who we were and what we did pulsing life. It’s not a recovery road. It’s a rehab road. We LEARN to adapt, to meet the new world with an openness and interest to live well. Be about living and not dying to quote Tim Robbins in “Shawshank Redemption.”
Jason will never be the same. But in the new day as he moves from ICU to Intermediate Care to a Rehab facility dealing with Brain Injury patients to our home, the new day can be discovery. So, recovery becomes rehab and the future? Still God’s gift. And still adapting. The future CAN be known for its discovery, casting futility to the side.
Then it occurred to me, whether or not we’ve had or may have some day a brain injury, adapting is for each of us…to not lock into the past but be open to the new day, the new patterns of life and the reality that God never abandons us…
So, we take on the new day…fellow adapters…and pray for each other that we don’t die. Rather, we live with energy and openness. Another “take” on Carpe Diem.