The Heart And Soul Don’t Stay Poisoned

Twenty-four years ago a friend crashed, his life obliterated beyond recognition. In whatever way, when darkness shatters the light—ever been there—more than once—life is so bad that death is not worse. That was 1993. Now. Well, I share. My friend gave me permission and I am sharing because of my friend’s experiences…and how redemption does happen. It really does. Within my friend’s selfhood.

I think the thing I am most uninformed about is myself. I started to really give myself permission to care about me in Sept. of ’93 when I’d become quite toxic with: the end of my first marriage, promiscuity, cocaine, marijuana, good wine and undiagnosed manic depression. One very revelatory evening at my friend’s house, he saw ‘thru’ me, then he saw ‘to’ me, got me to detox and then to a voluntary inpatient clinic near us where I got diagnosed, got the chemical help for my brain’s chemical imbalance, got away from all those ‘substances’ and got ‘kicked out’ after 5 days of a 9-day signup.

The ‘clarion’ call (is that a religious thing or is it just a bit more eloquent than “Wake up and smell the coffee?”) came at the rehab clinic the night before I was heading home in the group meeting area fairly late at night. I was fiddling around with my guitar which some dear friends brought me along with clean clothes around my second day. I was vaguely aware of the overweight, middle-aged woman with the bandaged wrists laid out in the barcalounger mostly oblivious to the world due to Haldol or Thorazine.

For some reason, the John Prine tune “Angel from Montgomery” leaped out of my musical mental rolodex and I began to strum the chorus-over and over and over since it’s all I knew of the song. If you’ve ever heard a decent recording of jazz great Oscar Peterson (a deity of the piano), you can easily make out his famous mumbling behind the music. I started to hear a bit of that mumbling while I was playing, looking at nothing in particular in this bleak, sparsely furnished room on Rehab.

In astonishment, I look over at my lady friend, still reclining with her eyes closed, and she’s SINGING the chorus to “Angel from Montgomery” under her breath! In the words of Gene Wilder in “Young Frankenstein”, “It’s ALIVE! It’s ALIVE!” I keep strumming the chorus and only the chorus-her voice begins to gain a little in confidence and presence. Staff members at this point have come into the room looking askance and in disbelief. I remember looking at them with a smile, shrugging my shoulders as if I don’t really know what’s happening, but I keep strumming and she keeps singing. I recall that one nurse had tears, the one who told me that this woman had tried to take her life not a week prior.

Late morning the next day I didn’t even recognize this woman who was out in the sunny courtyard with her husband and teenage boy. She was totally alert and responsive and wanted to know if I still had my guitar so she could teach me the entire lyric to “Angel from Montgomery”: “If dreams were lightning/thunder was desire”…”Just give me one thing/that I can hold on to/to believe in this living is just a/hard way to go.”

Wow, what a digression. I’m saying, I think I take pretty god care (‘good’ care, but what a great typo!) with being active, good diet, hydration, yoga EVERY morning and no substance abuse since Sept. of 93. Oh yeah-and my spouse–a gift of Yahweh. I still don’t think I know myself as well as I’d like. When my employment changes will I be missed? Will I be needed elsewhere? Where is that and why do I feel so ill-prepared for the future. For now I’ll stay in the moment. For as you write and share so often, “Friend? Know you are loved…no matter what.”

About Mark H Miller

Diane and I live in Leander, Texas. This past June 17, 2015 I celebrated the 49th anniversary of my ordination. We returned to Texas after three years in Washington, during which I served as interim minister in Bellevue/Eastgate and Mercer Island. Am planning to begin a 5th novel that will have my protagonist, Tricia Gleason, serve a year in licensed ministry in Snoqualmie, Washington. The novel, "The Lemon Drop Didn't Melt," will find Tricia wrestling with ministry challenges. None of which more daunting than someone wanting her breathing to stop. All the published novels are available on Amazon and Amazon Kindle under Mark Henry Miller. A primary goal in our return to Texas is to make sure grandchildren get lots of attention--here and in Chicago and Washington, D.C. Traveling is definitely an activity that will not slow down. With that, of course, fishing will happen. To that the t-shirt is apt, "I fish; therefore I am." In addition to novels, the book of Blogs, "Voice Of My Heart," is also available on Amazon.
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